The Concept Of Self Care

active-activity-adult-863926When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life. – Jean Shinonda Bolen

Isn’t funny that we tend to recharge electronic devices when they are low or that we tend to service or fix electronic devices that have technical glitches?  Isn’t funny that we refill our cars with gas (petrol or diesel) when their fuel tanks are empty; when we need the cars to run errands? Isn’t it weird that things breakdown after they surpass the cycles of failure they were designed for? Why do we tend to overwork ourselves and never have breaks when we work? Why do we sleep deprive our bodies in order to achieve our goals? Why do we suppress our emotions or tend to be passive aggressive when interacting with other people? Why do we deem other people’s voices as greater than our own and allow our own voices to be drowned by the voices  or opinions of others? Why is it that we care more about things more than we do ourselves? Things are replaceable. Human beings are irreplaceable, there is only one you in this universe despite there being roughly 8 billion people in the world, we are all rare.

You have to learn to water your spiritual garden. Then you will be free. – Janet Jackson

Self care is important:

People should take notice that self care is essential. It is important for people to take care of their minds, bodies and nourish their souls in order for them to function on a daily basis. Below are 5 steps to follow when one wants to set up a self-care routine. When one dives into a depression or has a mental or chronic illness flare, the routine should act as a frame work that one uses when they feel like things are falling apart (or about to fall apart) or to manage their health and their lives.

When we self regulate well, we are better able to control the trajectory of our emotional lives and resulting actions based on our values and sense of purpose. – Amy Leigh Mecree


  • Express your emotions: It is important that people note that emotions are meant to come and go. If one does not allow this process to happen due to their suppressing of emotions. Psychosomatic symptoms may arise as a sign to alert you that there is an imbalance within your body and that something has to be done to bring about balance and stability. Psychosomatic symptoms are related to anxiety and depression. Journaling is also a great way for one to express their feelings. Please take note that negative emotions are just as normal as positive ones and they deserve to be expressed and not suppressed. Once again, always let emotions flow through your body.
  •  Love yourself: No matter what you have gone through, no matter what people have said to you in the past. Choose to love yourself despite it all, you will always have your own back and you can achieve so much in life when you truly love yourself. You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy (and make you happy as well).

Accept yourself. Love yourself as you are. Your finest work, your best movements, your joy, peace, and healing comes when you love yourself. You give a great gift to the world when you do that. You give others permission to do the same: to love themselves. Revel in self-love. Roll in it. Bask in it as you would sunshine. – Melodie Beattie

  • When you’re tired rest and try to get enough sleep: I know so many people have mentioned this before, it is important to rest especially when you have chronic or mental illnesses. When we are energized, one can accomplish so much in a day. Take breaks when working on tasks and break large chunks of work into smaller or manageable ones so that you don’t overwhelm yourself.
  • Water your soul or spiritual garden and have a support system: Learn to change your negative self talk into something more positive on a daily basis. Speak to people who can talk you out of something that isn’t good for you; people that can help you grow. Meditate, and let all your thoughts flow through your mind. Sometimes when we try to control where our mind wonders, it’s difficult to remain relaxed or calm. This can trigger a vicious cycle of depression or panic (anxiety). This may take time but be patient with yourself.
  • Listen to your intuition and follow it: your intuition knows you best, follow it. If you feel like exercising, do exercise. Follow your intuition and learn to trust yourself. Always trust yourself. If you are still struggling or still have trust issues, consult with people that have the best intentions and always speak to your health professionals because you have a relationship with them. They will not judge you because they know your story. Find something you love and gravitate towards it, it will help you in the long run.

Life has ups and downs but remember that you can always soldier on and not let circumstances hinder your process of growing and being yourself.

Self-care is how you take your Power back. – Lalah Delia


Thank you for being with me. I look forward to seeing you here again. Let us rebuild a healthy state of mind.



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